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Sunday, August 03, 2008

after infertility..infidelity..divorce....

when my son was 2 months old I discovered that his father had multiple other girlfriends who did not know he was married - I was barely able to walk after severe hemorrhaging - the birth left me very weak and anemic and I was a wreck...


fast forward two years - I left the $#%$, got a divorce, moved back to my preferred coast (the opposite one), changed careers, went back to school and am now a pretty happy single mother living in an idyllic small town


why he went through 3.5 years of infertility treatments while he was busy building long-term relationships with at least two other women I'll never know


why it all had to be so awful and even cliched I'll also never know


my son is beautiful, being a single mother is hard, but not as emotionally devastating as infertility - we work so hard to build families and then it can all fall apart even after conquering infertility.... I just wanted to put this p.s. up there if there is anyone who wanted to know the rest of the story

6 Comments:

At 11:26 AM, Blogger Susie said...

I am so sorry for what you went through, but I'm so glad you ended up where you are. You sound like you are doing well. Thanks for letting us know. I've often clicked through, hoping for an update.

 
At 1:38 PM, Blogger PiquantMolly said...

Thanks so much for stopping by and letting us know. Divorce is hell, but where you end up on the other side makes it all worthwhile.

 
At 10:10 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

K - How sweet, you spew a wholly sanitized version of your life, present a cliched narative of your resurrection, and then remove comments that question whether anything you've said bears a relationship to reality ... That is the way of your life. NEVER are you to be challenged or questioned or, god forbid, take responsibility.

Even anonymous comments on an anonymous blog are so threatening to you?

 
At 6:32 PM, Blogger Mary Harris said...

Bitterness is a frozen form of latent anger and resentment. Bitterness grows out of our refusal, to let go when someone or something is taken from us. Bitterness is being constantly hurt by a memory and is holding onto a hurt until it has a hold on you.

Bitterness is the unhealthiest emotion you can have. When you are offended or disappointed by others and allow the hurt to germinate in your heart, bitterness and resentment will take root. Bitterness is characterized by an unforgiving spirit and generally negative, critical attitudes. Bitterness and resentment are both sinful and self-defeating. Perhaps it grows from the literal loss of a loved one or of a job, or income, or relationship. Sometimes it might be more subtle and grow from the loss of a reputation, or social position in a group, or control. Whatever the cause, bitterness grows out of unreleased loss.

 
At 7:28 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mary, I hope the blog keeper will heed your words! Until know she has taken her bitterness - a bitterness that has been germinating since she was a kid - out on her son, among other uninvolved bystanders. Too bad.

 
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